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Posted 3 months ago

Some femmes are dominant and some butches are submissive.

Some femmes are dominant and some butches are submissive. Sometimes what you call a clit is called a dick by it’s owner, and sometimes a dick is really a clit. Some butches want to be penetrated and some femmes want to do it. Sometimes people aren’t butches or femmes at all and sometimes genitals aren’t a black and white issue. Sometimes people are different to you, and always, we need to accept this.



This this this.

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Posted 4 months ago
So… I’ve determined that I just want the body/look of a twink, basically. I love “twink masculinity”, for lack of a better phrase. I’m just a twinky, bottomy, butch. God.  My gender identity is just…so…gay. Zoom

So… I’ve determined that I just want the body/look of a twink, basically.

I love “twink masculinity”, for lack of a better phrase.

I’m just a twinky, bottomy, butch.

God.  My gender identity is just…so…gay.

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Posted 4 months ago
For me, pronouns are always placed within context. I am female-bodied, I am a butch lesbian, a transgender lesbian – referring to me as “she/her” is appropriate, particularly in a non-trans setting in which referring to me as “he” would appear to resolve the social contradiction between my birth sex and gender expression and render my transgender expression invisible. I like the gender neutral pronoun “ze/hir” because it makes it impossible to hold on to gender/sex/sexuality assumptions about a person you’re about to meet or you’ve just met. And in an all trans setting, referring to me as “he/him” honors my gender expression in the same way that referring to my sister drag queens as “she/her” does.

Leslie Feinberg, quoted at Pronouns can be awkward | What’s Queer Here? (via transthings)

Whoa.

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Holy fuck.  This is pretty much exactly how I feel about pronouns, but I never knew how to put it. Woah.

Leslie Feinberg, you are my hero.

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Posted 4 months ago

Well hey there

I just wanted to say thank you so much to everyone who has reblogged my resource list!  I’m so glad that something like this is finally out there.  I’m incredibly happy that so many people have liked it and reblogged it (when I looked at it yesterday and saw that it had 700 notes, I almost spat gatorade onto my computer, haha)!

I know that there have been many times where I felt very alone and misunderstood over the last few years.  I knew that there were probably others out there like me, but I didn’t know how to find them.  Hopefully this resource list being available will keep others from having to feel that way.

To those out there like me, especially the female-identified folks who struggle with chest dysphoria— you are not alone. There is nothing wrong with you.  You are the only one who gets to decide what feels right to you.


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Posted 4 months ago

Resources for FAAB, Non-Male Identified People Who Want Top Surgery

—PLEASE REBLOG THIS—

This is a compilation of resources for female-assigned-at-birth (FAAB), non-male identified people who want top surgery.  This document will include a list of surgeons who are willing to perform top surgery on genderqueer/non-male-identified people, as well as a list of blogs of people who want top surgery or have had top surgery but are not male-identified.

 This information has been collected from a variety of sources.  If there is something you see that needs to be added or corrected, please let me know.  I want to make this list as comprehensive as possible!

SURGEONS (Those who are italicized do NOT require a therapist’s letter)

THERAPISTS

  • Katy Koonce – Katy is willing to do phone sessions with and write letters for people all over the US.  Her contact information can be found here: http://katykoonce.com/contact.htm

YOUTUBES

TUMBLRS

OTHER

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Posted 5 months ago
dangertits: I’m finally at a point where I really like all of my clothes. and opening my drawers makes me happy, because I can see all of them snuggled in there together. I don’t want to feel guilty for placing a lot of value in my self-presentation. Sure, capitalism sucks. But sometimes a good outfit is what gets me out of bed in the morning and that’s really fucking important. Wow, this.  This is something I&#8217;ve been thinking about a lot lately, actually.  Sometimes my love for men&#8217;s fashion makes me feel really materialistic and shallow, but when it comes down to it, finding pieces of clothing that I feel right in has been a life-long struggle for me.  Clothing is one of the primary ways I express my authentic butch self to the world, and that&#8217;s really fucking important. Zoom

dangertits:

I’m finally at a point where I really like all of my clothes. and opening my drawers makes me happy, because I can see all of them snuggled in there together.

I don’t want to feel guilty for placing a lot of value in my self-presentation. Sure, capitalism sucks. But sometimes a good outfit is what gets me out of bed in the morning and that’s really fucking important.

Wow, this.  This is something I’ve been thinking about a lot lately, actually.  Sometimes my love for men’s fashion makes me feel really materialistic and shallow, but when it comes down to it, finding pieces of clothing that I feel right in has been a life-long struggle for me. 

Clothing is one of the primary ways I express my authentic butch self to the world, and that’s really fucking important.

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Posted 7 months ago
goldengray: queersecrets: [ Text: I don’t know if I’m “butch” or genderqueer. The uncertainty is a terrible feeling. ] GPOY 24/7/52/365. If you ever want to talk, my email is dapperwombat at gmail (tumblr has lost too many asks for me to trust it, but that’s also an option). I could really use it, too. I sometimes say I’m “in the squishy intersection of the two.” This is something I used to struggle with a lot.  Eventually, I came to a place where I felt that the two don&#8217;t have to be mutually exclusive, but it took a fair amount of processing on my part.  I also used to think that I couldn&#8217;t be lesbian (I prefer the term &#8220;gay&#8221;, but whatev) and genderqueer.  I know it sounds cliche and dumb, but you really do just have to figure out what works for you.  If you feel butch AND genderqueer, you are! If you feel genderqueer AND lesbian, you are!  And anyone who tries to tell you differently doesn&#8217;t respect you. Period.

goldengray:

queersecrets:

[ Text: I don’t know if I’m “butch” or genderqueer. The uncertainty is a terrible feeling. ]

GPOY 24/7/52/365. If you ever want to talk, my email is dapperwombat at gmail (tumblr has lost too many asks for me to trust it, but that’s also an option). I could really use it, too.

I sometimes say I’m “in the squishy intersection of the two.”

This is something I used to struggle with a lot.  Eventually, I came to a place where I felt that the two don’t have to be mutually exclusive, but it took a fair amount of processing on my part. 

I also used to think that I couldn’t be lesbian (I prefer the term “gay”, but whatev) and genderqueer.  I know it sounds cliche and dumb, but you really do just have to figure out what works for you.  If you feel butch AND genderqueer, you are! If you feel genderqueer AND lesbian, you are!  And anyone who tries to tell you differently doesn’t respect you. Period.

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Posted 7 months ago

goldengray:

In which I livejournal/ramble like helllll about all the usual topics. Don’t blame you if you’re bored by now.

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Agh, I identify so much with so many of the things you mentioned.  I never know how to feel about being read as male anymore either.  It is satisfying, though, like you, I have a hard time figuring out why.  I think it’s satisfying to me because it confirms that people are reading me as a masculine person, and that’s validating, because… well… I am.  I think that’s the same reason that I also feel frustrated sometimes when strangers call me “ma’am”.  It almost feels like they’re not really seeing me.  Is it so much to ask to be a sir but also be a she and a her?  

Agh, I struggle with the not-trans-enough thing all the time, too.  Actually, even more so after surgery, since most of my dysphoria is gone.  I think the conclusion that I’ve come to is that I can, indeed, reconcile using female pronouns and being genderqueer.  In the end, it’s about what I know to be true for myself. I just have to keep reminding myself of that when I feel insecure/not-trans-enough.

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Posted 7 months ago

Processing Top Surgery: Butch on Butch* Attraction

This is a post I’ve been meaning to make for quite some time.  Months, really.  I’m just having a hard time putting all my thoughts about it together in a coherent way.  That, and my recent breakup has made me hesitant to publicly discuss my attraction to other people, even in just a general way, for fear of hurting C’s feelings.  My evolving attraction to butches is something that C and I actually discussed on more than one occasion while we were together, so it’s not like it’s going to come as a surprise to her, but I still want to be respectful to her and her feelings.  That being said, I’ve increasingly felt like this is a part of me that I need to put out there, to have other people know and acknowledge about me. 

Thus, C, you may want to skip reading the rest of this post.  I will put the majority of it behind a cut.

For the sake of brevity, I’m going to use “butch*” to mean butches, bois, studs, dykes, genderqueers, genderfucks,  etc.  I do not, by any means, think these identities are the same (though of course they can overlap!), I am just attracted to the masculinity in all of them.

TMI warning: After the cut there’s talk of porn, top/bottom dynamics, stone butch identity, and penetration.

I want to stress that this is my experience, and my experience only. I do not speak for other butches*.

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Posted 7 months ago

Gender-Confused Insomniac Geek: I think I'll always stay a soft butch, only because I'm too squishy,soft and sensitive inside to be flat out butch.

goldengray:

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goldengray:

Haha, I am soooo squishy. I cry at all the things. I like to talk about my ~feelings~, and I have an unfortunate tendency to spring a leak while doing so.

But I am also very, very butch, and I’m slowly learning that the two things are not necessarily mutually exclusive. The way I see it, there…

This.   Meee too, my friend.  You can ask Clara— I was always the one crying when we got into fights.  I’ve always been the sensitive type. Always.  When we had those exercises in preschool/kindergarten where we had to finish the line “I am very _____”, my answer was always “sensitive”.  I shit you not.

You can absolutely be butch and be sensitive.  You can be soft butch and be sensitive; you can be hard butch and be sensitive.

I am still struggling to make peace with the fact that I have always cried more than my femme girlfriends do, and that I’m a “crier” in general.  It’s a process, but I’m definitely getting there.  There’s nothing wrong with me, or you.  Our sensitive natures are not at odds with our masculinity, they are in harmony with it. 

Our masculinity is beautiful and strong, even if it comes with tears.

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Jeez, this is spot-on. Wow. Thanks, Ash.

You’re very welcome. I’m so glad it struck a chord with you. :)

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